Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Anger Management

Have you ever feel unloved or angry for no specific reason? Or may be you feel not important just because there are some one else is better than you? They could be your brothers, sisters, cousins, friends, or even your best friend. You cannot run away with the feeling because one day the feeling will get heated and finally you throw your tantrum to others.

What is tantrum? Tantrum is type of emotional expression. For example, when your parents telling you something that you may not agree with, instead of talking to them politely, you might slam the door, yell at them, or just leave the room. May be you have observed at the shopping mall, small child was crying out loud because the mother refuse to buy him or her the toy on the rack. That is tantrum.
You must know how to control your negative emotion (like angry) so that you would not get tantrum. Here is the checklist for you to ask yourself:

i. WHAT makes you angry?

Is it when….
• People always pick on you?
• You don’t understand what people want from you?
• No body is listening to what you want?
• _______________________________________

ii. WHAT you think when you are angry?

Are you thinking to …
• Hurt others before they can hurt you ?
• Hurt yourself because you think you should be punished?
• Want to argue with the authority (teacher, parents, prefect)?
• _______________________________________

iii. HOW do you feel that time?

Are you feeling…
• Frustrated?
• Downhearted?
• Powerless to do anything about your life?
• _______________________________________

Try to observe your own emotion for a week. See how many time(s) in a week you feel angry. See how you deal with your anger. Does anger help you to solve your problem? What are the consequences after you show your tantrum?
Let’s identify things that you do to help you stay calm. List all the positive strategies that help you most to deal with the feeling of anger.

• Listen to music and sing along
• Talk to yourself – self monologue
• Do physical activities like some exercise
• Write your feeling in diary or create a blog

Remember, you have to control your anger, before it controls you! Talk to someone you trust is the best. You can talk to your parents, siblings, friends, teachers or go and see your school counselor – anyone that can help you to work on your feelings, help you to build up strategies in dealing with difficult situations that may trigger you anger. Sometimes, anger could boost your creativity. You can always let go your feelings by writing poems, song lyrics or any form of art projects!

Each time you feel angry, you could use the positive methods that work for you to control your anger. Try to think of solutions. This will help you successfully resolve your anger in a positive way.

Dr.Norzah Abd Ghani